"He is asking me to change my return and say I only have one child as a dependent and one for the eic credit."
I'm sure he does. Based on your facts, his return is incorrect. That means he has a problem. I would recommend that you not let it be your problem. Whether he changes his return or not, you would need to file your return on paper instead of e-filing it. Even if he changes his return, the change will not be made in IRS's system before your return is due, so you would still need to file on paper.
If he does change his return, you would get your refund. If he doesn't change it, you would still get your refund, but the the IRS will send notices to each of you to determine which is correct so they can adjust one return. The result should be that HE will pay additional tax, interest and perhaps penalties - but that's not your problem.
(Posted 08/27/09)
Thanks... I'm just going to leave my return as is and paper file it. He was making me feel guilty by saying this was my fault and I should have never taken the eic credit in the first place, that I was stealing from him and causing him to lose money he was entitled too. He stated his tax man said the best way to handle this was to give him the credit so he wouldn't face irs involvement. I wasn't sure what to do since I use turbo tax for my taxes and assumed his tax man wouldn't reccomend anything if it wasn't on the up and up. I appreciate everyones help. thanks